SANTA CRUZ DE TENERIFE, Nov 11 (EUROPA PRESS) –
Beatriz Zimmermann, mother of Anna and Olivia, the two girls murdered by their father in Tenerife at the end of April, has warned this Thursday that minors are “unprotected” against sexist violence “and cannot ask for help.”
“My little ones were defenseless in the face of such a monstrosity,” said Joaquín Amills, the president of SOS Disappeared, who read a letter at the opening of the conference on vicarious violence organized by the Diputación del Común in the Parliament of the Canary Islands.
Thus, he has detailed that after his personal experience he rethinks “many things” because children need “more tools” to ask for help in case of suffering or contemplating episodes of violence because the situation always “worsens” in the homes and the abuser does the same. who knows best, “abuse in your comfort zone”.
He has asked to be “less tolerant and more radical” at the first lack of respect because “respect is everything” and it is very difficult to recover when it is lost, but in the case of children, he stressed that “they are defenseless and are vulnerable “and their parents are” an example “for them whom they have to obey.
Zimmermann has commented that “at first he was afraid” of separating from his partner in case that situation would affect the girls by not being able to see them all the time “but in the long run” he thought that “it was better to grow up in an environment where peace and love “, and that” was impossible “in a coexistence with Tomás Gimero because he did not respect him.
“I thought he was a good father and I was totally wrong, nobody thought that Tomás could do something to them, everyone believed that he was a good father, and that is the worrying thing,” he detailed, also lamenting that many abusers play “psychological games” on him. to the children to win them over to their cause.
He has also commented that a large part of the abusers “abuse what they can”, because they are violent or want to “feel more important”, but from the outside “they want to look like good parents”, so he has asked to “ally” with the abused children so that they “feel that they are not theirs.”
“Losing their custody and being the shame of society worries them a lot,” he stressed.
In the letter, Zimmermann stressed that “being parents does not mean that you can do what you want with children” because “they are nobody’s” and they need to have more rights and be more protected.
THAT ABUSE IS NOT SEEN “AS SOMETHING NORMAL”
Along these lines, he commented that children “are present and future” and their education must be given “more importance” because eradicating violence “is very difficult overnight” but for the future “it is easier” if it begins with children and that “they do not see abuse as something normal.”
For this reason, it has demanded more professionals in the treatment of minors because if they know how to approach them “they will realize if the children suffer at home”. “We can do a lot to marginalize the abusers,” he commented.
Amills, who has read some of the almost 200 drawings that children sent to Beatriz, has commented that finding Olivia “was a gift of life” to “shout enough” and that children are not used as a tool to cause pain to the mothers.
He pointed out that Anna and Olivia “have left a legacy” and it is everyone’s responsibility to “continue advancing” in equality and leaving the war between men and women behind.
“We are obliged so that these cases are not repeated,” he said, demanding more education, prevention and training to “put a stop to this scourge” and that “abuse is not normalized.”